When Other Believers Just Don’t Get It

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However, we speak wisdom among those who are mature, yet not the wisdom of this age, nor of the rulers of this age, who are coming to nothing. But we speak the wisdom of God in a mystery, the hidden wisdom which God ordained before the ages for our glory, which none of the rulers of this age knew; for had they known, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory (1 Corinthians 2:6-8 NKJV).

However, we speak wisdom among those who are mature, yet not the wisdom of this age, nor of the rulers of this age, who are coming to nothing. But we speak the wisdom of God in a mystery, the hidden wisdom which God ordained before the ages for our glory, which none of the rulers of this age knew; for had they known, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory (1 Corinthians 2:6-8 NKJV).

As I read the Facebook post by my good friend, Cindy, I couldn’t help but shake my head. How could she, a believer, believe such garbage? Sometimes it angers me to read things that “people in the world” believe that I find offensive as a Christian, but it bothers me even more when believers “just don’t get it.”

Have you ever felt that way? Social media can be both a blessing and a curse. It’s a blessing to be able to stay in touch with our friends and family members. It’s great to be able to share our areas of interest and passion. But we also are exposed to what others are interested in and passionate about and sometimes those things rub us the wrong way.

It can happen any time there is a big event in the news. It could be a story that breaks about what one of our beloved Christian figures said or did that caused others to go on a rampage. Or it can be about a moral issue. And don’t even get me started on what happens on social media during the political season!

If you’re like me, you may find yourself getting angry and frustrated about these things. You may even find yourself getting into debates with people. The time you spend arguing may even take you away from your areas of responsibility. And the words you write may hurt and alienate the people you care about the most. And if you write them in anger or frustration, in spite of your best intentions they may even sully the name of Christ.

What I’ve come to realize is that often when people say things that I, as a believer find offensive, that “had they known, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory.” They may have a wrong opinion, but a right heart.

Now it’s true that there is a time to speak up for what is right. It’s important to stand on the Word of God and to not waver when it comes to what the Bible says.

But it’s important to do so with a heart of compassion, a heart that loves, and a heart that gives the other person the benefit of the doubt when it comes to their own walk with the Lord. It’s important to remember that the battle we fight isn’t against flesh and blood, but against principalities, powers, and the rulers of darkness (Ephesians 6:12).

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Praying the Word

Lord, please forgive me for my self-righteous and judgmental attitude. Help me to always give others the benefit of the doubt when it comes to where they stand with you. Give me self-control and wisdom when it comes to the way I respond to others.

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Applying the Word

The next time you find yourself annoyed by something one of your acquaintances, friends, or family members say or post on social media, stop. Give them the benefit of the doubt. Don’t immediately judge them, and don’t let your heart swell with pride in self-righteousness.

Recognize that they simply may not know. And recognize that you yourself may not have it all right either. Instead of responding in anger, speak to them with grace, kindness and love as you live out the truth of what God has revealed to you through the Scriptures.

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2 Comments

  • Dave

    October 29, 2015

    Great line right here: They may have a wrong opinion, but a right heart.

    • Rebecca Livermore

      October 29, 2015

      Thank you, Dave. One point that I probably didn’t emphasize quite enough is that none of us get it “all right.” So sometimes when I think someone is off. . . well, I may be the one that’s off! Regardless of who is right or wrong, the key thing is having a heart that is right before the Lord, and doing our bests to live by and follow what the Bible says.

      Rebecca